Living in this time of pandemic is isolating. The quarantine has been going on for long enough that "normal" is becoming a relative term. Living and working at a distance to others is the new normal. We are all struggling to find a sense of normalcy and wellbeing in this new way of daily life. In the midst of this upheaval in our social lives, many are willing to take the risk of exposure to find sexual encounters. The need for connection in these singular times is real, and needs to be addressed in as safe a way as possible. This, coupled with the need for the stress relief that sex can provide, makes this connection an important part of your mental health as well. For those of us who are not lucky enough to be quarantined with our sexual partner, finding safe ways to come together, pun absolutely intended, should not be ignored.

Covid-19 spreads through the virus being present in droplets from mucus membranes, as well as droplets from our breath, both through the nose and mouth. Distance, experts recommend 6 feet, is one defense against these droplets. Since it is impossible to distance during sex, this activity can and will raise the risk of exposure to Covid-19. There are ways, however, to lessen exposure in these intimate moments.

One of the ways we can all stay safe and still enjoy new sexual partners is to expand the conversation to include Covid safety. It is always important to communicate your likes, dislikes, and boundaries to your sexual partner or partners. Including precautions for Covid-19 in "the talk" can mitigate your risk of exposure. If you want to wear a mask, and want your partner or partners to also wear a mask, you should make your preference clear. Just like the use of a condom or a dental dam, wanting to protect yourself is your decision, and should be respected by your partner or partners. You might even incorporate the masks into a role play scenario to make it less awkward and more playful as you stay safe. Removing fear from the equation can go a long way to normalizing wearing a mask during sex with either a new partner or a partner you are not quarantined with. Although the idea of wearing a mask for protection against Covid-19 during such an intimate act can be awkward, it should be noted that feeling safe and protected can and should be an important part of consent.

There are many cosplay options for mask wearing that can bring a fun, playful side as well. Think superhero, sexy nurse, furry play and leather play. Some ball gags even have a mask cover to inhibit saliva . This could just be a time to introduce a hood as well?

In these extraordinary times of pandemic, keeping normality and self care in the forefront can be a challenge. Rising to this challenge to reclaim your sex life can be it’s own reward, as the benefits of sex, as detailed in our previous BLOG, can in many ways outweigh the risk. This is especially true if these risks are mitigated by precautions.

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