We all can fall into a rut. At home, at work, or at school we can fall in or out of a routine, for better or for worse. This can also happen to us in relationships and in the bedroom. It is a common problem that can be easily fixed with a little time and attention.

Falling out of sexual sync can very easily happen when we are in long term relationships. We become comfortable with each other and the newness of our sexual life with our partner begins to fade. It is quite common to get into a phase of your relationships where we feel more like roommates than lovers after a long time together. Compounding this, sometimes, is the fact that as we age, our sexual desire usually decreases. These factors combine to lower our libido, and often our enjoyment of sex overall.

The main way to improve these types of situations is by giving the issue attention. Leaving things to get worse can cause you and your partner to drift further and further away sexually and romantically, causing further damage. Here are a few strategies to bet back on track and back into sync.

• Start with talking.

Acknowledging there is a problem in your relationship and sex life is an important step. It is imperative that you both be on the same page with the problem and the solution going forward.

• Connect outside the bedroom

We cannot go back in time to that honeymoon phase, but we can strive to recapture the feeling of that time. Do activities together, even something as simple as a walk holding hands. Have a weekend getaway, go out to your favorite date spots. Reconnect in an emotional way, before trying for a more physical bond.

• Make a plan.

It may seem unromantic at first glance, but plan a date for sex. Pick a time and place that is comfortable for both of you. Make sure you communicate with each other to get the best possible date to make sex a good and relaxed experience for both of you. Once this “date” is set, you can increase the romance by sending sexy notes, text messages, and hints that tonight is the night to have sex. This can help build the emotional libido during the day to get you “ in the mood” .

• Give it time

It took time, many times years, to get a relationship into the place where sex is no longer a priority. It will take time to get back on track.

• Manage your expectations.

You and your partner may never get back to those early days of sexual activity. Give yourself permission to redefine what your sex life will look like now. Maybe once a week is great for you both now, when once a day was the norm in the early days of your relationship. Give yourself permission to set a new norm , your sex life is YOURS after all.

Maybe now is the time to introduce sensual massage, or an adult toy into the scene for a more low impact experience? We even have a toy at Badd Kitty that has top of the line technology and is called the We Vibe Sync . Check it out here. Redefining and reinventing your sexual experience may be just the thing to keep you in sync!

We have all heard the saying “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” We can replace that with “The grass is greener where you water it.” Give your relationship and your partner the attention they deserve, and oftentimes we will be rewarded by a lush, green love life.

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