Everybody has their kink. We here at Badd Kitty, your favorite store for adult toys and lingerie, we are all for the safe and pleasurable exploration of those kinks. One of the most popular ones that people indulge in or have an interest in is impact play or spanking according to sources like Allure. Impact play can be an easy portal into the larger world of BDSM, or you may just enjoy a slap to the bottom during sex. Either way, there are safety tips for beginners into impact play.

Impact play involves one or more partners receiving some kind of impact. This can vary from spanking or even punching with a hand, or being struck with an instrument like a flogger or paddle. This is done for the sexual pleasure or gratification of one or both partners. It can be as sexual or non sexual as the participants decide.

Consent is a large part of impact play, as it should be with any sexual encounter. As we discussed in our article Red Light, Green Light, gaining consent, defining limits and boundaries, and having a safe word system in place before play is of the utmost importance. Talk with your partner about what areas of the body are on or off limits and what your hard no’s are. It cannot be stressed enough that impact play in any form without consent is assault, plain and simple. The first rule of any BDSM play is consent.

A good place to start for beginners is with hand spanking on the ass, for both the spanker and the spankee. Starting with a little light spanking will let all parties involved know a lot of good information. First of all, do you like it as much as you thought you would? If the answer is no, here is no need to go further. If you and your partner do enjoy it, you can begin to explore spanking a little more deeply. Start light, then increase intensity to explore what you and your partner can tolerate and enjoy. Vary the speed and the area of impact to get the desired mix of pain and pleasure. In the beginning, aim for the meatiest part of the butt cheeks or the thighs. Always avoid the spinal areas, it can be painful and could do damage. Employ constant communication between partners to check for comfort levels and when one partner might need a break to catch their breath or get reassurance.

Aftercare is a must, and is an area most often skipped over by beginners. Aftercare can be as simple as rehydration and a snack or some cuddling with your partner. Whatever aftercare is for you, be sure to take a little time after your impact play session to check for bruising or broken skin that may need some treatment. Aftercare in any form can be a great way to reassure your bond with your partner after impact play.

Dipping a toe into a new kink can be intimidating. Getting good info and going slow can be the way to get comfortable and explore at your own speed.

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Dr Holly Richmond

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