Loving Yourself
Tori Douglas on Oct 1st 2019
“If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.” We have all heard the phrase. It's become a bit of a self help mantra. It is Rupaul's catchphrase! It should also be a sexual satisfaction mantra. The first step to having a full and healthy sex life with a partner or partners is to learn about yourself. Get hands on, literally, and find out your own likes and dislikes.
Masturbation is for everyone, and just about everyone is doing it, whether they admit it or not. The act is more than quick self satisfaction and a dopamine release. Masturbation can and should be used to explore yourself and your appetites. As we discussed in an earlier blog, found HERE , masturbation, like any other form of sexual activity, is a great stress reducer. It releases endorphins to block pain and give a general feeling of wellbeing. So bask in the afterglow of your self love.
Masturbation can also help with the self awareness side of “self love”. Getting to know and love your own self and body, and respecting your body, can go a long way toward improving body image and self esteem. For some people, taking back their power over their own body and sexuality can improve mental health. Just letting go of the idea that masturbation is dirty or shameful can be incredibly empowering. When you are pleasing yourself, make that time important. Make your pleasure a priority.
It doesn't matter if you are a virgin just getting to know yourself or someone who is sexually experienced. Take the time to touch and explore your body: go slow and gauge your reaction to certain kinds of touch as well as different areas to touch. Try to prolong the pleasure and enjoy the different sensations, as well as the highs and lows of self pleasure. Don't just masturbate, make love to yourself. Try edging, the practice of approaching the point of orgasm, pausing, then starting again. Watch porn, especially of masturbation, and observe techniques you want to try in your own exploration. Even if porn is not on your normal sexual menu, trying it out solo and exploring different kinds of porn can help you discover your likes, dislikes, and even fantasies.
Don't be afraid of incorporating toys. Take a look around Badd Kitty and see what toys you would like to try. If you are a beginner, start slow and simple with a small vibe. Remember to always use the appropriate kind of lubricant for your chosen toys, and clean them thoroughly between uses. Use it to explore the difference between touching and the vibe. If you are familiar with toys, try to leave your comfort zone. Try some sensation lotions solo before you bust them out with partners. Regardless of your experience level, Badd Kitty’s team is there to help you with your wants and needs!
However you choose to physically love yourself, let that physical expression lead to actually loving yourself a little more every day. Then, when you are ready, go out and show that love to someone else!