Sex and relationships are and should be, a constant work in progress. The work is absolutely worth the reward in the area of satisfying sex life and relationship. To get this work done, here are some tips we have gathered to keep your sex life burning hot.

• Practice nonsexual touch

Touch is an important part of sex and intimacy, both in and out of the bedroom. Before you get to the sexual touch, fill your relationship with nonsexual touch. Hand holding, tickling, shoulder rubs, any kind of casual but still intimate touch builds your relationship and intimacy outside of your sexual life. Use these moments of nonsexual touch to build that intimacy throughout the rigors of daily life. Of course, any sort of massage is also a great way to build nonsexual touch. From a quick neck rub to a full body intimate massage, this is always a good way to connect with your partner, you can check out our massage products here.

• Mix it up with masturbation

Too often we get into a routine with masturbation. It becomes almost a race to the finish line of orgasm. Do not be afraid to try different techniques, toys, or even the addition or subtraction of porn. Be sure to check out your favorite Badd Kitty store for different toys, lubricants, or videos to spice up your solo sessions.( System Jo makes a high-quality male masturbation cream that can add just the right amount of glide vs. friction.) As we have said before, you have to know what you like before you can share these preferences with your partner or partners. Even try pleasuring yourself in front of your partner so they can see what you like and enjoy the show. Ask your partner to do the same for you.

• Put yourself in charge of your own arousal

Do not be a passive participant in your own sex life. Do not make the mistake of leaving your arousal and sexual satisfaction up to your partner or partners. Tell or show your partner what you like, and even what you dislike. Communicate what you want, and do not be afraid to lead by example between the sheets. Taking control and ownership of your sexual needs and satisfaction can be an important step for your own pleasure.

• Have patience

Give yourself and your partner time to get down to business. As we age, and as we settle into relationships, we may need more time to get the motor warmed up for sex and intimacy. Do not rush yourself or your partner down the passion path.

• Do not be afraid of sexual aides

Just as we suggested with masturbation, sex with a partner can also be helped along with the aid of aides. Whether toys like a vibrator or dildo or an app-enabled device, the addition of a little help can be great for your sex life. The possibilities are endless.

• Let your sex life be fluid

Like all things in life, our sex lives can ebb and flow. We may go through "dry spells" in sex, and that is ok. Do not let expectations of what your sex life "should be" get in the way of what works in your relationships.

The work of keeping your sex life happy and healthy can be hard. It can also bring rewards to both you and your partner or partners in so many ways.

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