The Devil is in the Details
Tori Douglas on May 21st 2020
The devil is in the details. This could not be more relevant than in issues of sex and relationships. In order to maintain these relationships, both physical and emotional, a certain amount of work is needed. Putting in a little pre game work can pay off in the bedroom. Here are a few suggestions to put a little effort into your sexual details.
A very important part of intimacy is respect for your partner or partners and can take many forms. The most basic can be hygiene. Maintaining a certain level of personal, bodily hygiene is not only respectful of those you want to interact with you physically, but more inviting to those who you have a physical relationship with. If you have the expectation of sexual activity, strive to make your body as pleasing and welcoming as possible. Shower and shave, if shaving is part of your routine. Brush your teeth and use mouthwash before a date or before bed to make kissing a more pleasant experience. Trim and file your nails if you plan on digitally stimulating any area of your partner. Avoid too much cologne or perfume, especially in any area you would like your partner to touch with their mouth. Nothing kills a sexy mood faster than a mouthful of chemicals. There are many great natural body care products at Badd Kitty. Try the Coochy shave cream for the smoothest shave out there!
Set the mood for intimacy in your bedroom. Limit screen time in the bedroom, it should be a haven. Experts suggest that reserving the bedroom for sleep and sex only makes the environment more conducive for both of these activities. Try to not spend time in bed working or scrolling through your social media feeds. Regularly change your sheets and pillow cases, and rotate your mattress for comfort a few times a year. There are even products like linen sprays with pheromones available at Badd Kitty to enhance the mood even more. Keep candles and other low light sources at the ready. Find a romantic music channel or prepare a love song list of your and your partner’s favorite sexy jams. Setting the mood in your environment is an often overlooked detail you can fully control.
Keep any toys, lubricants, or other sexual aids at the ready. Having a partner pause in the throes of passion to wait while you find a condom or bottle of lube is a libido killer. Have your sexual treasure chest stocked in a drawer or decorative box all together and easy to locate. The same organization can be spread to your wardrobe. If you and or your partner or partners enjoy lingerie or costumes, have this wardrobe separated and together in a certain part of the closet or designated drawer in the bedroom. For BDSM play, be sure you have keys available for any locks you may be using as well.
That being said, begin BEFORE the bedroom. Flirting is as important to sex as any other of these tips. A glance, a touch, a sexy text, a quick passionate kiss, can all spark the anticipation that needs to the fire! The sooner before the bedroom you initiate flirting and sexy innuendo, the hotter that spark will become.
A little forethought and preparation, as well as selfcare and taking into account your partner’s experience , can make your sex life so much more rewarding. Even your spontaneous quickies will benefit from giving time and effort to the details.