Knowing yourself, and becoming familiar with your body is important to your sex life. You cannot let your partner know how to please you if you do not first know what you like and dislike. Knowing your likes and dislikes, as well as your own particular erogenous zones, makes it easier to communicate to your partner how they can best please you. On the flip side of this coin, it is just as important to know your partner or partners. Knowing your partner’s body, and knowing how to please them, always leads to a deeper and more fulfilling sex life for everyone involved. Taking the time to get to know each other is always rewarding.

If your partner is of the same sex, you have the advantage. You have similar bodies, and as a baseline what feels good to you will have a great chance of feeling good to your partner. Still, communication is important to learn the particulars of where, how, and when to touch your partner. Having an open line of communication, and paying attention to the response of your partner can go a long way to sexual success. Oftentimes, a slight movement, a small sound or a facial expression can tell you all that you need to know.

If your partner is of the opposite sex, there can be a little more homework involved. Knowing the ins and outs of the sexual anatomy of the opposite sex brings a deeper level of understanding the sexual response of a partner. A simple Google search can uncover the particular anatomy of your partner if you are not comfortable admitting you are in the dark, but open communication with your partner or partners is always best. There is always the chance to turn this education into a sexy anatomy lesson. Never pass up the opportunity to get some consensual hands on learning when it comes to sex. You can make a game of it as well. Using sex dice to “ roll” different sexual positions or scenarios can allow you to try different things, making it a trial and error guided game, with spontaneity tossed in. Sex dice are available here.

An alarming amount of people are in the dark about basic sexual anatomy, even involving their own body, let alone the anatomy of the opposite sex. Studies have shown 55% of women do not know there is a difference between the vagina and the urethra and only 1 in 4 men can accurately locate where their prostate is. If we do not know our own bodies, the bar is low to knowing about the anatomy of the opposite sex. These basic facts should be known by both penis owners and vulva owners in order to know about our bodies and our sexuality. The stereotype of men not being able to find the clitoris exists for a reason, but anyone who wants to be a better lover can educate themselves. Knowing ourselves, and opening up to learn about our partners is so important for communication and sexual satisfaction in intimate relationships.

Sexual curiosity and education go hand in hand. Wanting to know about your partner or partners is the first step to striving to please them in the bedroom and beyond. Take the time to learn and grow as a sexual partner, and reap the benefits of a thorough sexual and anatomical education.

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