Sex ed in high school is a great resource for teaching us the fundamentals of human sexuality. Sex ed should only be the beginning, however. There are so many more tips, tricks, and facts that should be included in those fundamentals.

• Lubrication

Many sexual health experts consider lubrication to be the most important topic in sex, especially for beginners. Lubrication should be included in most instances of penetrative sex, even penetrative masterbation. Microtears in the tissue of the vagina or rectum can be dangerous, and can be avoided with proper use of lube during penetrative sex. Microtears increase the chance of getting a sexually transmitted infection or even a bacterial infection. Get to know your lubricants and feel free to experiment with the various types. It can not only make sex safer, but more pleasureable. Visit your favorite Badd Kitty store for more information and products. Check out our blog A little Assistance , for more information on lubricants.

• Douching

Douching is, in general, not a safe practice. "Washing out" your vagina is not a good idea as it takes away the good bacteria that keep the vagina healthy and can leave you open to infections that range from irritating to dangerous. The vagina keeps itself clean by forming mucus to wash out period blood, discharge, and semen all on it's own. Only wash the vulva, never the interior canal of the vagina.

• Consent

Consent is the most important part of any sexual encounter. Learning about consent is a big part of being a good sexual partner to those you choose to have sex with. One of the tenants of consent is it should not be implied, but expressly given. Even with your regular partner, consent is fluid and can be given or revoked at will. Paying attention to your partner's state of consent is a basic level of respect for their sexual autonomy. Making your own consent clear and unambiguous is something you should do for the mental health of both yourself and your partner with each sexual encounter.

• Pee After Sex

This is a tip you definitely do not get in school. You should urinate after sex to clear the urethra of bacteria that could cause infection in your bladder or kidneys. Make going to the bathroom soon after sex part of your routine. It will save on medical bills and trips to the doctor.

• Most STI's do not have symptoms

...at least not right away. Treat yourself well by adopting the STI testing regimine that is right for your sex life. Get tested, ideally with your partner or partners, with each new sex partner you bring into your life. Never assume because someone looks healthy that they are "safe" and testing is unnecessary. Many STI's are asymptomatic and can still be passed from person to person through sexual contact. Also, do not assume because you are not having penetrative sex, you are not at risk. Any sexual encounter can put you at risk for STI if your partner is infected.

Sexual education, like any other type of learning, should be a lifelong journey. Continuing to explore sex and sexuality through your own experience goes a long way to you knowing yourself

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