One of the number one complaints of women about penetrative sex is the lack of orgasm. Many women find it hard to orgasm with only penetrative sex. This means that for most women, penetration is not the “main event” of their sex life. Getting enough quality foreplay is much more important to a lot of women. Sometimes with enough quality foreplay, orgasm might not even be the “main event”, either.

Quality foreplay starts where all good sex should start, with communication. We should all be communicating with our partners about our likes and dislikes as far as sex is a baseline we should all aspire to. Beyond that, women have to communicate what feels good to them and specifically what they are looking for as far as foreplay. Here are some areas of foreplay to get things hot and slippery in the bedroom.

• Body massage

Begin with simply touching, not even necessarily in the erogenous zones. Touch all over the body gets the blood flowing and helps with arousal in general. Going the extra mile with a massage oil can be a different sensation as well.

• Kissing

It may sound simple, but it sure is effective. Everything from a quick peck to a deep, breath stealing kiss can have a physiological effect on your body. Most couples report that deep kissing can be very sensual. Do not forget the neck and other parts of the body when the kissing gets started.

• Breast Stimulation

Breasts are a very sensitive area for most women. Breast massage and nipple stimulation can be greatly arousing. We have talked before here on the blog that Nipple Orgasms are even possible. Breast stimulation using hands, mouth, or toys should be a big part of foreplay.

• Genital Stimulation

This one should be a given, but again, talk to your partner. Genital stimulation, with either hands, mouth or toys, is usually the most definite way to achieve orgasm. This is assuming your partner knows where and how to stimulate the clitoris. Talk your partner through where and how to touch you to stimulate your clitoris to help you reach orgasm.

• Anal Stimulation

This is not for everyone, but if you and your partner enjoy anal play, it should be a part of your repitroire. It may be as simple as rubbing the anus with a digit or as in depth as annilingus, as we discussed in a previous blog. If you are not into penetration, you can use vibrating toys on and around the anus for a pleasurable sensation. Remember, do not use toys in the anus , then vaginally.

Foreplay is the “main event” for many women when it comes to sexual satisfaction. If enough good, quality foreplay is given, it makes penetrative sex that much more enjoyable. It also raises the likelihood of orgasm, either from the foreplay itself or from the penetrative sex. So take the time to get the blood pumping and give plenty of good foreplay. Women, and you men as well, help guide your partner in what gives you the most stimulation and take back control of your sexual pleasure.

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