There are many definitions of what great sex is. They all have certain things in common, however. Below are some tips and tricks to help make all your sex great sex. We all know sex is like pizza, even bad pizza is good. But, of course, we want all sex to be great!

• Consent

Continuous, enthusiastic consent is a big part of great sex. Non enthusiastic consensual sex or agreeing to sex just to please a partner is a recipe for disaster. You want your partner to be 100% on board for the entire duration of the act, as well as feel enthusiastic all through sex. Begrudgingly given consent can ruin sex for both of you. You want a willing partner who will enjoy everything you do together. The more you pay attention to consent, the better the sex and the relationship will be. Consent should be given importance to and given freely.

• Safety

Safe and sane are the key words for great sex. You and your partner can both relax and enjoy when you are safe in your sexual practice. Get tested before each new partner to know you are safe. Encourage your partners to get tested as well and know their testing status. Use protection such as birth control pills, an IUD, or other methods to prevent pregnancy or barrier methods such as condoms or dental dams to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections. Safety also means you choose safe partners who you know will respect you and your enjoyment. It is important to be safe emotionally as well as physically to ensure great sex. Even a one night stand should feel safe and sane to make the sex fantastic.

• Communication

Constant and open communication is important to great sex. Without communication there is no way to know what your partner wants and needs from the encounter. From a guiding hand to sexy talk, communication with your partner can take many forms, and all forms help you and your partner along the road to great sex.

• Know yourself

Knowing what you like in the bedroom will help you enjoy sex. Not only can you communicate your wants and needs for sex to your partner if you know them first, but it will also make you more comfortable with sex and better able to enjoy it. Knowing what you like, both alone and with a partner, will help make sex go from good to great.

• Be generous

Knowing your partner, and knowing how to give them what they want and need is just as important for great sex. You want to give as good as you get to make sex great for both of you. Communicate¹ and really listen when your partner tells you what they want and need. You should also pay attention to their body and their reactions to you to see what is ok and what is fantastic to them in particular.

Taking sex from good to great takes effort. Having yourself and your partner putting in that effort will go a long way toward great sex time after time. So put in that effort and you and your partner will reap the benefits.

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