Reconnecting for the Holidays
Tori Douglas on Dec 28th 2019
The holidays are a busy and hectic time of the year for us all. Between the 1st of November the 15th of January, the 7 major religions of the world celebrate 29 holidays. In addition,Thanksgiving is celebrated by Canada and the United States, plus New Years Eve across the world. This results in a flurry of celebrations, parties, office get togethers, meals, gift exchanges, shopping, cooking, and traveling. I bet you are tired just reading all of that! Plenty of the other facets of life can and do get pushed to the back burner in the midst of all the holly and the jolly. Sex included. Let's talk about why you should not let your sex life get ruined by the holiday madness.
As the hustle and bustle of the holiday season extends our to-do list and piles on the stress, sex is often forgotten or skipped over. With this lack of physical contact, the cracks in any relationship, already strained by holiday tension, can begin to open wide. Ironically, this is the time of year when relationships and human contact can be most needed and important to our well being. Especially, if you struggle with depression during the holiday season, keeping sex on the menu should be at the top of that to-do list.
Reconnecting, physically and emotionally, through sex can reap many benefits and combat many of the negative stresses and emotions of the season. We have discussed in our article Sex as Self Carethe many physiological benefits of a healthy sex life.
While at first glance, scheduling time for intimacy and sex may seem clinical and unromantic, think of it in a different manner. We need to make time and put effort into what is important to us. As they say, the grass is greener where you water it. Stolen moments with your partner during the holidays are magical, but can not be counted on. Scheduling time sets you and your partner up for holiday success. Beyond the stress release valve of sex, reconnecting with your treasured partner let's you both know you are valued and important to each other. A scheduled liaison can refocus your affection, create a little bubble of peace in a turbulent time, and release the pressure of any stress-fight you may have had or be close to having. Even if you might not be feeling it when the schedule calls, try to give yourself a chance to at least spend some time with each other.
If scheduled sex is not your cup of tea, be sure to make an effort to find time for each other. Steal an evening with the "Do Not Disturb" sign firmly in place. Maybe, slip away from the Christmas party to make out on the coat pile or in the copy room?
So take some extra time this busy and bustling holiday season for yourself and your partner. Making your relationship a priority, and spending time with each other, can help to make the season bright once again!