The Goal of Sex

The Goal of Sex

Tori Douglas on Aug 10th 2021

The goal of sex is pleasure for both partners. However, studies have shown that most women do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone. If you are looking to orgasm or give an orgasm through penetrative sex, there are ways to raise your chances. Here are some ways women have found to get the most arousal and pleasure out of penetrative sex with either a penis or a sex toy such as a dildo, and be more likely to orgasm. So whether you are a woman looking to try new ways to orgasm through penetrative sex or a partner wanting to give your female partner that pleasure, read on.

  • Communicate

Communication is always first and foremost for sexual pleasure. Constant communication between partners about what feels good or bad is key. Communication can be as simple as a "yes!" or even a sound of pleasure when your partner is on the right track. Physically guiding your partner with your hands is also good to lead them to pleasing you. Always feel like your pleasure in a sexual encounter is important enough to communicate with your partner. Normalize talking to female friends about what they enjoy and what helps them orgasm during penetration to get ideas.

  • Angle the pelvis

Move around during penetrative sex to experiment with how it feels as the penis or dildo hits different angles to find that sweet spot. Up, down, side to side, get moving or move your partner to explore the different angles of entry for ultimate pleasure from hitting the g-spot. Even rotating your hips during penetration can hit spots you never knew felt so good.

  • Shallow entry

Penetrating just an inch or so into the vagina can be a very pleasurable sensation for women. The wealth or nerves just inside the entry of the vagina provide just the right stimulation for some women. Give this technique a try.

  • Clitoral stimulation

Using clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex can bring things to another level. Stimulation with either fingers or a vibrating toy is a great way to achieve orgasm during penetration. Women should feel encouraged to touch themselves or show their partner just how to touch them to reach orgasm.

  • Anal stimulation

Much like clitoral stimulation, gentle stimulation of the anus can heighten pleasure. Go slow and gentle here, especially if you or your partner are beginners with anal play.

  • Rocking

We have been taught by porn that aggressive thrusting is always the go to technique. Rocking your pelvis against your partner with the penis fully inserted can sometimes be more pleasing for the woman. This action allows the clitoris to rub constantly against the base of the penis or dildo, encouraging orgasm. This technique is best achieved in a woman on top position, but can be achieved in other positions as well.


No matter if it is the first time with a partner or the thousandth time, try out some new techniques and positions. It may not seem like a big change, but even the small adjustments can make the difference in pleasure and orgasm for the woman in question.

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