Anal sex is becoming more and more common in our sexual world. Studies have shown both men and women are enjoying it in much greater numbers. It is not, however as simple as vaginal sex, and a few tips and tricks should be employed to help make things as smooth and enjoyable as possible.

The first tip is lubrication. The anal cavity is not naturally lubricated. Plenty of the right kind of lubrication is required for safe anal sex. Water or silicone based lubricants are best for anal sex. Be sure to stop and adjust the level of lubrication as needed. Use a lot, as the tissues inside the anus are delicate and can tear easily. Look around our Badd Kitty site for the right lubrication for you and your partner to use during anal play. Lubrication is a very personal choice in feel and texture. Many people prefer a thicker , more viscous, lube that stays in place longer to use anally.

Slow and steady is the best for anal sex. Especially if you are inexperienced with anal sex, going slowly can help with discomfort and to help avoid injury. Insert the penis or dildo bit by bit, having constant communication about discomfort as you go along. Regardless of what you might have seen in porn, most people are not prepared for a quick insertion followed by quickly pounding away. Ease in for the comfort of both partners. Communication is always key. Remember if there is any pain with anal penetration, slow down or stop completely.

Prepping before penis insertion can also be helpful. Use sex toys like anal beads or anal diilators to help get your anus ready for the bigger stretch of a penis or dildo. Be sure to use lubrication with these toys as well. You should also prep the anus before any kind of insertion by thoroughly cleaning the area with mild soap and water. Taking the extra step of an enema can also help with ease of penetration and by reducing the risk of infection from micro tears in the anal tissue. The less bacteria present, the less likelihood of an infection.

Remember to relax. Settle in and enjoy yourself. The more relaxed you can be, the more easily your anus will relax and allow insertion. Taking the time to relax before and during anal sex can not only make it less stressful, but can also make it more enjoyable. You should also try lying on your stomach, as this puts less pressure on the anus and can help the muscles relax.

Do not forget the aftercare. Be sure to clean the area with mild soap and water and even go the extra step of applying a protectant cream to help with any lingering soreness. Always check for bleeding and fissures. See a doctor if you notice anything unusual or have pain or excessive bleeding.

Anal sex takes a little more effort than vaginal sex to do safely. With a little patience and a little prep work, it can be just as pleasurable for both partners. Do not be afraid to give it a try in the bedroom.

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