The best sex positions are the ones that fit your bodies, your energy and what you want from the moment: closeness, clitoral stimulation, depth or control. This guide groups the best sex positions by goal and shows which couples toys, cock rings and wands Badd Kitty stocks make each one better.
Updated October 2026
Quick answer
- For connection: missionary and face-to-face variations, with a vibrating cock ring such as the Vedo Thrust ($64.95).
- For clitoral stimulation: partner-on-top, spooning and coital alignment, with a mini wand like the Le Wand Mini Micro ($35.95).
- For depth and angle: doggy style and legs-raised missionary, with a pillow or the Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Sling ($99.95).
- For hands-free vibration in any position: a wearable couples vibrator such as the We-Vibe Sync ($179.95).
- For trying something new without pressure: position card games and scratch tickets from $7.95.
Positions for closeness and eye contact
Missionary and the coital alignment technique
Missionary is popular for a reason: full-body contact, kissing, and easy communication. Shift it into the coital alignment technique (CAT) by moving up a few inches so the base of the penis or toy grinds against the clitoris with shallow, rocking strokes rather than deep thrusts. A vibrating cock ring worn at the base adds buzz exactly where that contact happens; the Vedo Thrust C-Ring ($64.95) has three speeds and seven patterns, and the Maia Ronan dual ring ($94.95) carries two bullets.
Lotus and seated positions
Sitting face to face, legs wrapped, slows everything down. Penetration is shallower, so a wearable couples vibrator such as the We-Vibe Sync ($179.95) or Sync Go ($129.95), which sits inside and against the clitoris at once, carries the stimulation while you focus on each other.
Positions for clitoral stimulation
Partner on top
The partner on top controls depth, angle and rhythm, and can lean forward to grind or back to leave the clitoris open for a hand or toy. A small, quiet wand is the easiest add: the Le Wand Mini Micro Wand ($35.95) or Maia Dolly mini wand ($39.95) fit between bodies without getting in the way.
Spooning
Lying on your sides, one behind the other, spooning is low-effort, intimate and leaves the front partner's hands free. It is also one of the best sex positions for anal because the receiving partner controls depth by shifting their hips. A bendable Femme Funn Ultra Wand ($84.95) reaches easily from the front.
Positions for depth and angle
Doggy style
Kneeling on all fours allows deeper penetration and a direct angle toward the G-spot or prostate. A pillow under the hips or chest changes the angle; dropping to the forearms goes deeper. Add vibration with the We-Vibe Chorus ($225.95), which can be remote-controlled by the partner behind, or hold a bullet in front.
Legs raised and supported
Missionary with the receiving partner's legs on the giver's shoulders, or hips lifted on a firm pillow, tilts the pelvis for depth. Supported positions are where sex furniture earns its keep: the Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Sling ($99.95) holds weight so neither of you is straining, and Door Jam Cuffs ($35.95) add a standing restraint for anyone exploring light bondage.
Toys that make positions better, compared
| Product | Brand | Price | Type / feature | Best positions |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Thrust C-Ring | Vedo Toys | $64.95 | Silicone vibrating dual ring, 3 speeds / 7 patterns | Missionary, CAT, partner on top |
| Sync | We-Vibe | $179.95 | Wearable couples vibrator, adjustable fit, app and remote | Lotus, spooning, doggy |
| Mini Micro Wand | Le Wand | $35.95 | Pocket-size rechargeable wand | Partner on top, spooning |
| Ultra Wand | Femme Funn | $84.95 | Bendable head, waterproof | Spooning, side positions |
| Door Jam Sex Sling | Sportsheets | $99.95 | Adjustable sling, fits any door | Supported standing and raised positions |
| Lucky Sex Scratch Tickets | Kheper Games | $7.95 | 8 scratch-off position and foreplay tickets | Choosing tonight's position |
Low-effort positions for tired nights
Not every night calls for athletics. Spooning, side-by-side face to face, and the receiving partner lying on their stomach with a pillow under the hips all work with almost no strain on knees, wrists or backs. They are also the positions where a toy does the most work for the least effort: a wearable such as the We-Vibe Sync stays in place while you barely move, and a small wand held between you runs on its lowest setting. Keep a pump bottle of lube on the nightstand so no one has to get up.
How to try new positions without pressure
- Pick one change at a time: a pillow, a toy, or a new angle, not all three.
- Talk during, not just after. "Higher", "slower" and "stay there" are complete sentences.
- Make it a game. Sex! Card Game ($9.95), 50 Positions of Bondage ($8.95) and Lucky Sex Scratch Tickets ($7.95) hand the decision to chance.
- Keep lube in reach; new angles are easier with more glide, and anal positions always need a thick anal lube.
Comfort, safety and consent
Every position should be comfortable for both people; cramps, pinching or numbness mean adjust or switch, not push through. Support knees and wrists, keep sex furniture anchored to a solid door or frame as directed, and use plenty of lube. Vibrating toys should feel good, not painful; take breaks if sensation fades. Check in before trying anal or any restraint, and stop if your partner asks. Persistent pain during sex is worth raising with a clinician. This article is general guidance, not medical advice.
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